Here we present a new method for coupled linear elasticity problems whose finite element discretization may lead to spatially non-coincident discretized interfaces. Our approach combines the classical Dirichlet–Neumann coupling formulation with a new set of discretized interface conditions obtained through Taylor series expansions. We show that these conditions ensure linear consistency of the coupled finite element solution. We then formulate an iterative solution method for the coupled discrete system and apply the new coupling approach to two representative settings for which we also provide several numerical illustrations. The first setting is a mesh-tying problem in which both coupled structures have the same Lamé parameters whereas the second setting is an interface problem for which the Lamé parameters in the two coupled structures are different.