Purpose The diffusion‐weighted SPLICE (split acquisition of fast spin‐echo signals) sequence employs split‐echo rapid acquisition with relaxation enhancement (RARE) readout to provide images almost free of geometric distortions. However, due to the varying T2$$ {}_2 $$‐weighting during k‐space traversal, SPLICE suffers from blurring. This work extends a method for controlling the spatial point spread function (PSF) while optimizing the signal‐to‐noise ratio (SNR) achieved by adjusting the flip angles in the refocusing pulse train of SPLICE. Methods An algorithm based on extended phase graph (EPG) simulations optimizes the flip angles by maximizing SNR for a flexibly chosen predefined target PSF that describes the desired k‐space density weighting and spatial resolution. An optimized flip angle scheme and a corresponding post‐processing correction filter which together achieve the target PSF was tested by healthy subject brain imaging using a clinical 1.5 T scanner. Results Brain images showed a clear and consistent improvement over those obtained with a standard constant flip angle scheme. SNR was increased and apparent diffusion coefficient estimates were more accurate. For a modified Hann k‐space weighting example, considerable benefits resulted from acquisition weighting by flip angle control. Conclusion The presented flexible method for optimizing SPLICE flip angle schemes offers improved MR image quality of geometrically accurate diffusion‐weighted images that makes the sequence a strong candidate for radiotherapy planning or stereotactic surgery.